DISCLAIMER: Before there is any confusion, the point of this article is not to promote disingenuous communications with others…Nor is this a sorry not sorry dissection of Beyonce lyrics.
If anything, apologizing in the following scenarios are meant to be communicative gestures one might consider making in these tumultuous times. We are living in an angry and outspoken era, where a couple cocktails isn’t just lubrication for a lively political conversation over happy hour—but rather potential gasoline on a fire of a lose-lose debate engulfing your relationships. And Facebook isn’t for checking in anywhere anymore, it’s a reason to chuck your phone across the room because a second cousin you’ve never met is making racist comments.
It seems as though any one of us might lose our shit at any given time. Which is why it is essential to be mindful of our interactions, including how and why to make amends when we don’t see ourselves at fault or in the wrong. As these awkward apologetic pickles can show up seemingly out of nowhere these days, we suggest keeping these positive points in mind.
The relationship is worth it
Agreeing to disagree is the name of the game for a lot of relationships, but sometimes even more compromise is necessary. You know the people in your life that are worth biting your tongue and apologizing first for. With all the reasons in the world to be pissed off, treat those closest to you kindly.
The high road is a great place to travel
Just because some people are obsessed with being punitive and assigning blame, doesn’t mean you can’t apologize for your role in the matter—however big or small. Showing the other party you aren’t pointing fingers or dwelling on what happened can be a very loving act. Clean the slate and move on.
The opportunity for empathy
We all make mistakes—and if you feel strongly enough about the situation at hand and the people involved—then attempting to experience their perspective is a worthwhile endeavor. For all the rights and wrongs that can exist between people, simply saying you’re sorry can be a way of acknowledging the other person’s emotions surrounding a situation, without being hung up on guilt.
Amidst the litany of reasons to be frustrated, justifiably angry and prone to freak outs, may the aforementioned be ammunition for graceful interactions with others. You never know where you’ll find the opportunity to be the bigger person, set a good example, and make your parents proud—whatever that means.